In general, no one tells you that you might not have much fun after giving birth. The unslept, uncombed, and unbathed creature (it could happen to be you) is not as devoted to its mate as it was before.
What to do in such cases?
Baby at home
The idyllic picture of a cooing baby and a happy family is what everyone imagines when they decide to have a child. In the 21st century, however, a child is among the most serious stresses you and your partner can go through. On the one hand, the mother acquires a human being to whom she is expected to give all the attention in the world. On the other hand, this leads to the man turning his back. Before him, however, you were a couple, and the baby is the fruit of your love.
Postpartum depression in men
The man is more than unprepared for what awaits him. It is possible that he even sees the “Alien” in the child. Unfortunately, once you have a baby, the mother tends to claim all the territory, pushing the man away. That’s not how it’s done! When a man comes home from work, he has the same expectations as before the baby – to eat, to be calm, to be hugged, etc. En masse, we forget to acknowledge what they’re doing – whether it’s changing a diaper or something else. We forget what brought us together.
As long as we don’t brush our teeth, comb our hair, etc., a man sees neat and pretty women on the outside, which he is not excluded to like. Let’s face it; we wouldn’t want to go home to a tired, grumbling creature just waiting to be dropped by a bawling baby.
A family idyll
The idyllic family picture is doing the things you do together, just bringing the baby into that pattern. To be part of the experience, not pushed into the other room. It may cry again, but take turns in care. The important thing is that there is a division of duties and comfort so that you are aware that your time “together” should and can include the baby. If a smile is waiting for you at home, which subsequently multiplied by 2, you already have an idea, a meaning, and a reason to go home smiling.
The person you’re with
When you get old and start doing everyday things more difficult, it is not the children who will help you, but the person next to you – your support and support. Right now, you are building a future, and relationships are important, so respect the person next to you and the things they do. Take time to do something you love together. Leave the child with a friend and go to the cinema. Nothing terrible will happen. You can even set aside half an hour for just the two of you if you feel like it.
If the baby sleeps with you, he should not sleep between you but on the mother’s side. The relationship is guarded by the two adults, not the children – they are selfish by default. However, you want to stay a couple. It does not come from without but from within.
If the man “looks” outside the family nest, it happens after the second child. Precisely because he knows what awaits him, if you feel that something in your relationship is not right, you may want to seek professional advice and someone to help you piece your puzzle together. It is important to act logically, not emotionally.
Take care of yourself, dear mothers, and don’t do it for someone else but for yourself!
