In a candid story about motherhood, Asya from the video channel “Mamma Mia” this time talks about emotions – rushing like a hurricane, sweeping through life, leaving us one idea wiser. And children are a teacher – our continuation, our better selves.
“Children are not the most important thing in my life. They are the most important thing in their lives.”
And before you start judging, think about these words. For every mother, her children are magic and a string of endless lessons. Daily lessons. In them, we see our mistakes, and from them, we learn where we went wrong and how to be better, and, last but not least, to help others.
“Never stop chasing your dreams the way you do because you are a hundred times more persistent than me and a thousand times harder working.”
There are no words that can describe the pride a mother feels when she sees her child achieve his dreams. Help them, and encourage them to do what they love, want, and can do.
“When my son was born, his father had a girlfriend.”
You can imagine how emotional a moment in a mother’s life is to have a newborn baby and a man who doesn’t know if he wants to be with her or not. Despite this, or precisely because of this, she calls her son “my salvation.” Her little salvation teaches her to be strong for 18 people and to cry when she wants to. Unfortunately, however, a child born in such a volatile situation misses that childhood with happy moments and moments in which children are welcomed by a healthy and cooperative family. It’s normal to feel guilty. It’s normal to want to “pay it back” in some way. Basically, don’t feel guilty for feeling guilty. But what happened? Leave in the past.
“Babies grow up to be independent people when they are with their mothers.”
Many mothers worry that when they practice the so-called “attachment parenting” and sleep in the same bed with their children, they will become spoiled or not independent. Well, we assure you that this is just a myth. And the child returns much more love to his mother after time – all that love that she lacked at that particular moment of his birth.
“Men are another universe.”
Yes, we have often heard it said that men and women are from two different planets – they are actually from different universes. Anyone who thinks they can raise a boy and a girl the same way is wrong. It may often seem to you that in early childhood, your boy may be stupid compared to the girl, approaching everything differently, even tying his shoes. Even the most naughty girls are more efficient than any boy.
“I envy mothers who only have boys.”
They can fully immerse themselves in the male world, see it “from the inside,” and get into the male way of thinking. They teach mothers to be tolerant towards both men and their mother-in-law.
“Kids have taught me to be myself to date.”
They are a gigantic pivot in a mother’s life, a mountain she climbs daily and a sea in which she finds peace. What matters most is what you leave them and what you leave behind. Don’t burden them with being the most important thing in your life, but teach them how to be the most precious thing in theirs
